“I am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday”
-Dr. Gary Chapman
Getting to know the love language of your partner is the key to an intense intimacy and develops a stronger connectivity between each other. Dr. Gary Chapman, the famous American author made a case study about how a person expresses his or her love for their partner in a unique way.
He lists out how an individual uses their love languages to express and receive love from their partner. In this blog, we will venture into the five primary love languages, how to recognize them, implement it in your love life and cherish a fruitful relationship.
Table of Contents
What are Love Languages?
Love language is the concept of giving and receiving love to your partner to remind them you love and treasure your partner. Everyone has a certain preference, which Dr. Chapman classifies into 5 categories through which they communicate their love. They are:
Words of Affirmation
For people whose love language is words of affirmation, ‘verbally expressing how much their partner means to them’ and ‘admiring and appreciating their efforts for them’ are significant. Maintaining eye contact with your partner while you communicate your feelings is mandatory as it shows your sincerity.
Acts of Service
For those people whose love language is acts of service provide their partner support in household chores, running errands, and assistance in their work sometimes. Actions speak louder than words. So, this demonstrates your thoughtfulness and helpfulness. These practical gestures reach the heart of your partner stronger.
Recieving Gifts
Some people choose to give materialistic things to their loved ones occasionally to show their affection towards them. The things they give their partner should be of those which are quite useful for them, something they wanted for a long time and little surprises makes it adorable. Unique gifts which take them down their memory lane and those gifts which possess sentiments behind it will create greater impact on your partner.
Quality Time
It comprises undivided attention, sharing thoughts and experiences. People who spend quality time with their partner tend to be more connected and their bond will be stronger than others because they know them inside out. Recreational activities, dates, hitting the gym together, skin care routine are some of the ideas where both of you can spend private quality time together side by side.
Physical Touch
Tactile approach towards your partner is a powerful way to express love and create intimacy between both. Holding hands, kisses and hugs which gives your partner comfort, calmness and warmth should be implemented. Random gestures which take your partner by surprise is a must try.
What makes Love Language essential in a Relationship?
For a happy and prosperous relationship, you have got to understand the love language as they possess the following reasons:
Enabling Great Communication
Speaking with your partner using the love languages provides good communication. Reciprocation of your partner’s love language helps you to agree to their point of view and this enables and ensures you both are on good terms. Your efforts will be welcomed, well-received, and appreciated.
Emotional Connectivity
The use of love language within your relationship will ensure to have a deeper connection with each other. It will help people to understand the needs and wants of their partner eventually leading to deepening intimacy further. Thus, they will be surrounded by love and respect for each other.
Compromises all the Negativity
Enabling excellent love language into your relationship will become an aid to all your conflicts building compassion, compromise, and empathy for each other. This will end you up in having to be able to solve your problems from roots, make mature decisions, increase understanding, decrease misunderstanding, and foster reconciliation.
“‘Forgiveness is the way of love’ – Dr. Chapman”
Long Term Stability
Knowing the love language of your partner and having a deeper connection of minds between the both creates stronger impression in the hearts of an individual. This will allow people to maintain a stable relationship which will ensure prosperity.
Trust Building
Love language understanding will lead to trust among the couple. It allows your partner to let them know you are with a safe person and he/ she will have a person whom they can rely on at the end of the day.
Nourishing Love Languages in a Relationship
Identify your Love Language
It may be true ‘Whatever the souls are made up of, his and mine are the same’ by Emily Bronte from Wuthering Heights but you cannot have the same love language as your partner. So, take time to recognize their love language and your preference for love language firsthand. Make sure to have those love languages well conveyed and received by each other. Openly expressing your love language with each other will be a good initiative.
Talk to them in your Love Language
After taking into account your partner’s love language, make sure you talk to them in their love language. You may not have the same love language as your partner but alter their love language accordingly making sure your effort is visible to your partner.
Listening
Be attentive towards your partner, note down how they react to your love language, find out which gesture or love language most resonated with them, and then frequently repeat that love language making sure your effort was well received. It is the most important step to nourish your relationship to achieve a healthy relationship. Listening enhances your understanding of the emotional needs of each other.
Occasional Love Expression and Appreciation
Always appreciate your partner’s love language and tell them you made them feel special regularly. Supporting each other, appreciating efforts, acts of kindness, and gestures that remind them they mean a lot are mandatory expectations in a relationship.
Love Languages – A Timeless Journey
Love Languages are gifts you give your partner on an everyday basis. Identifying your partner’s Love Languages at the initial stage of your relationship. This mandatory procedure to get committed to any man/woman is very essential.
You have got parents who will be there for you until you settle in your life, you will be a parent to someone who has to settle down in their life but in every phase of your life, you will need a partner to show your happiness, your sadness, how fragile you are, how ambitious you are, how selfish you are at the same time, how selfless you are. That’s why a partner is very essential in all circumstances of your life. If you don’t express love to your loved one, what the point of sharing life with them
Conclusion
Love language happens to be the epitome of love, respect, and a foundation to nourish a healthy relationship. Spread the love you have; you will be loved the way you want to be loved. To sum up the love language in the words of Dr. Chapman beautifully, here goes:
“The person who is ‘in love’ has the illusion that his beloved is perfect.”
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